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“Women are for friendship. Men are for….” The World According to Samantha Jones.

Samantha Jones, brilliant, beautiful and fabulous. She is the eldest of the group of  ladies of “Sex and the City”  and is a force  to be reckoned with. She is glamorous, she is fiercely independent and proves beauty and sex are not about age, it is about attitude. Welcome to week one of “Movie Bad Girl of the Week Television Edition: The Ladies of Sex and the City” as we venture into the world of Samantha Jones.

Kim Cattrall as Samantha Jones.

Kim Cattrall as Samantha Jones.

Samantha Jones is in public relations by profession and she is damn good at what she does. She is able to compete in a man’s world and hold her own. She crosses paths with high powered people and is as completely at home with them as she is walking though Central Park with Carrie eating an ice cream cone.  She know how to pull off a gala affair and many times brings her girlfriends along to the party. She loves fashion and is incredibly stylish from beautiful business suits to slinky dresses (and sometimes less) and wears them as well as any 19 year old could. She has sex with reckless abandon and with as many men as she pleases. This is not to say she is not selective in her partners because she is. She is also an explorer when it comes to sex. She has had an interracial relationship, has had a lesbian relationship, once dated a man in his 70’s and tried a threesome with two gay men who wanted to experiment.  Her girlfriends accept that Samantha has a very exciting sex life and will discard a man when she is done with him.This often will lead to confrontations with Charlotte who frowns on Samantha’s attitude towards sex. The spats are usually very short lived. She rarely becomes seriously involved with a man partially, I believe, because she is terrified of getting hurt. She is incredibly loyal and loving towards her friends and would do anything for them and of the group is the least judgmental. At one point in the series Carrie tells Samantha that she cheated on her current boyfriend. She asks Samantha doesn’t she want to say anything and Samantha basically responds that judging is not her style. She is very protective of the girls and will defend them or herself with equal gusto. This lady is not afraid of a confrontation, the people she is confronting should because this lady will not back down. Samantha also has to deal with an issue that so many women do. She has to deal with breast cancer. Like everything else in her life she faces it head on. This woman loves life and is a fighter. Samantha Jones, 52,(as of the second movie) bold, brassy, loving  and absolutely bewitching.

Samantha in work attire.

Samantha in work attire.

Samantha in high-glam.

Samantha in high-glam.











Samantha in casual wear with the girls.

Samantha in casual wear with the girls.

What can we learn from Samantha Jones?

Samantha Jones works for herself in public relations. This is something many people do as opposed to working for an agency. The key point is whether you work for yourself or a company,  you need to be very good at what you do, especially if you are working in any business where the particular field is male dominated. Like Samantha you need to be completely at ease in that world. It is business and you need to show that same confidence and ability.

Be comfortable in your skin at any age. Women often worry about getting older and we have seen plastic surgery nightmares that illustrate this point in a chilling way. Samantha embraces the fact that she is indeed getting older but is still a very attractive and desirable woman. She is chic and stunning and so are you. Take this lesson and embrace yourself. You are dazzling.  I love that I am going on 47 and proud of it. The wrinkles that are showing up around my eyes don’t make a bit of difference. I earned every one of them.

Samantha has a mind-blowing sex life. I am not saying that like Samantha you should go collect as many partners as possible, but you do have the right to experiment and do as you choose. This is about sexual satisfaction and fulfillment and you are entitled to that. We all are. If you, like Samantha, do have multiple partners, own it and don’t let anyone make you feel like you should make apologies for it. This statement goes even further to include life in general. You are who you are and owe no one any apologies. You are not living your life for the world. You are living your life for you.

When it comes to actual romantic involvement I think we are all scared of getting hurt. I have been hurt several times in my life and I can honestly say I have caused pain to someone else. I once got hurt so badly that I didn’t date for several years. I used friends with benefits to take care of physical needs without the emotion. This was no way for me to live. I finally took one more chance and am now the happiest I have ever been. My husband and I are going on 11 years together. Many people are afraid of getting hurt. What if that fear gets in the way and you let that true love bypass you life?

Loyalty to friends is a very important quality. Friends are the families we create for ourselves and they are significant in our lives. We sometimes are more comfortable with the created families than we may be with blood relatives. Always treat friends with loyalty, love and respect. If someone hurts a friend you should be ready to come to their aid. These people love you and you should show the love in return. If a friend screws up, like Samantha, do not  judge them. Offer them a friendly ear and listen to what they have to say. Speak gently to them and offer support if it is needed.

Dealing with breast cancer or any major illness is a terrifying thing. Like Samantha, it is best to face it head on. In the meantime enjoy your life and let family and friends be there for you. Samantha gives an incredible speech about her cancer at a benefit and does it with a candor that is refreshing. If something is wrong don’t keep it bottled up. Feel free to talk about it in the most honest terms. Talk about your fears or the fact the you are wondering why it happened to you. It is okay to say it pisses you off. The point is people will listen and respond. What you have to say may very well help someone else.


Now as we close I will leave you with a few memorable Samantha Jones quotes:

“You’re a woman, and men don’t like women to be human. We aren’t supposed to fart, douche, use tampons or have hair in places we shouldn’t.”

“There’s no such thing as bad publicity.”

“Honey you have to let it go. If I worried what every bitch in New York was saying about me, I’d never leave the house.”

“He did something to me that was so perverse! Okay, I’m just going to say it. He tried to hold my hand.”

“Last night I could not stop thinking about a Big Mac. I finally had to get dressed, go out and pick up a guy.”


Next Week: Movie Bad Girl of the Week Television Edition: “The Ladies of Sex and the City” continues.



  1. I have always loved that Samantha had “balls” and faced challenges head on. Thank you for sharing 🙂

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