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The Fab Four

I am not referring to The Beatles. I am referring to the ladies of “Sex and the City”. Over the next four weeks I will be examining these ladies that so many of us spent our Sunday nights with, following their lives and feeling like we were among friends. I waited with anticipation every week to see where the story would go. These ladies were incredibly real and were characters we could really identify with. This is Movie Bad Girl of the Week: Television Edition: The Women of “Sex and the City”

(left to right) Samantha Jones, Miranda Hobbes, Charlotte York and Carrie Bradshaw, the ladies of "Sex and the City"

(left to right) Samantha Jones, Miranda Hobbes, Charlotte York and Carrie Bradshaw, the ladies of “Sex and the City”

On Sunday nights you can bet I was in front of my television with a glass of wine tuned into HBO waiting for my favorite show to begin. That, of course, was “Sex and the City”. We followed these women through good times and bad. We saw relationships come and go. We witnessed marriage and divorce. We saw births and death. We watched women who worked and were all fiercely independent. We watched the ladies deal with health issues and everyday problems. We saw them scared and jubilant. We watched the love that friendship can provide and we watched these ladies get very angry at one another on occasion. We peeked in on success and failures, achievement and loss. We shared laughs and shed tears and talk about fashion! We went along to incredible restaurants and clubs with these ladies and we all had to have a Cosmopolitan at some point because this was the favored drink of these bad girls. We also got to travel to different cities and countries with the girls. We felt like we like we really knew these women and we did. Although it was a television show, it was well written and acted. We could connect and relate with the characters on the screen. Did I like these ladies? That is an understatement.  I wanted to be them. Looking at myself, my friends and my life I have realized that I am them….and so are you. I will now introduce you to these incredible ladies. If you have never seen the show or either of the films you need to do so. It is so wonderful when art and life can mirror one another is such a dazzling and realistic way and make you feel a part of it.

Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw.

Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw.

Carrie Bradshaw Carrie is a columnist for The New York  Star. Her column is titled “Sex and the City” and she explores human relationships and sexuality. Unknown to her readers is the fact that more times than not her own love life is a mess. She is a master of screwing relationships up. She is largely led by emotion and can be profoundly selfish at times and needs this to be pointed out by her friends. Carrie is very realistic about the difficulties of relationships and she experiences so many of them. Deep down she is a romantic and is on an eternal search for real commitment and romance, she refuses to settle for less,in  Carrie’s own words “anything less than butterflies. She smokes Marlboro Lights and was willing to jeopardize a relationship over her habit. Her friends are all non-smokers and tolerate her habit because they love her. Carrie adores fashion and once remarked :  “When I first moved to New York and I was totally broke, sometimes I would buy Vogue instead of dinner. I felt it fed me more.” Carrie has a shoe fetish and will spend a month’s rent that she can ill-afford on the latest Jimmy Choo or Manolo Blahnik pumps. Carrie loves going to new restaurants and cocktail parties where she will sip at Cosmopolitans.  Carrie quotes and words of wisdom:

“Miranda was a huge fan of the Yankees. I was a huge fan of being anywhere you could smoke and drink at two in the afternoon without judgment.”

“The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don’t. But, in the end, they’re the people you always come home to. Sometimes it’s the family you’re born into and sometimes it’s the one you make for yourself.”

“Eventually all the pieces fall into place….until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment, and know that everything happens for a reason” “Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want, and just see what happens.”

Kristin Davis as Charlotte York.

Kristin Davis as Charlotte York.

Charlotte York Charlotte by profession is an art dealer. She had a very privileged upbringing in Connecticut. She is a graduate of Smith College and was a member of Kappa Kappa Gamma. She is a blue-blood and wants the perfect marriage and home and goes by rules of love and dating unlike her more liberated girlfriends. She is more straightforward about relationships and will often show disdain for the ladies behavior, especially that of Samantha Jones. It doesn’t make her a prude however. She sometimes can swear like a sailor and at one point becomes obsessed with a sex toy that causes her friends to have an intervention for her. She does enjoy dating and sex but deep down really wants an old-fashioned marriage, you know the one: 2 kids, a dog, a beautiful apartment in the city and a country vacation home with several bedrooms and a white picket fence. Perfect marriage is her ultimate goal. She has  one marriage that fails and does remarry afterwords. Charlotte is a lady in every sense of the word.  Unlike her friends who are sometimes jaded and cynical about love, Charlotte is a true optimist and knows that it is out there just waiting to find her. She believes in the social graces. Throwing baby showers, writing thank you notes, baking muffins as an apology for being quite snide with one of her friends (Samantha) plus a plethora of others. We learn that in her younger years she was a very accomplished young woman being Prom Queen and an equestrienne just to name a couple. Charlotte also has to deal with the fact that she is having trouble conceiving a child which is ultimate heartbreak for her.  Charlotte quotes:

Miranda [reviewing Charlotte’s prenuptial agreement] : Listen, this is just their opening offer. It’s totally standard to go back in and negotiate.

Charlotte: Negotiate? I can’t even buy stuff on sale!

“It’s infuriating! Women sit around, obsessing about what went wrong, while men just say ‘alrighty’ and move on.”

“I can’t believe you’re dating a politician. You’re not even registered to vote!”

Miranda Hobbes

Cynthia Nixon as Miranda Hobbes

Cynthia Nixon as Miranda Hobbes

Miranda is a graduate of Harvard University and is a lawyer. She is also the most jaded and cynical of the group and many times is the voice of reason for the group, especially Carrie. She is a total Type A personality. When we first meet Miranda she he is the most cynical, jaded and distrustful of men and relationships although this mellows as the shows seasons progress. She loves her friends dearly but can be a real bitch at times either calling out the faults in their relationships or becoming angry with them. To Miranda the world is a place that is black and white and the lines are clearly defined. Her entire world is thrown into an upheaval when she is wooed by a good natured bartender named Steve Brady. Her life becomes more complicated when she becomes pregnant. The least likely of the group to be a mother is now faced with a whole new set of problems. She is bright and sarcastic with a vicious wit. Deep down she is a woman who is very career driven. S has a huge heart that she doesn’t like to display often. The most surprising thing about this fiercely independent workaholic is that, out of all the characters, she manages to achieve “Work Life Balance” better than the rest. What was on her radar was career-oriented rather than having a family thrust at her. We can learn a lot from Miranda but that is a different article. Miranda quotes:

“I just realized; maybe it’s maturity or the wisdom that comes with age, but the witch in Hansel and Gretel, she’s very misunderstood. I mean, the woman builds her dream house, and these brats come along, and start eating it.”

Miranda: Three times? Try three months.
Carrie: No?
Miranda: Yes. Now would be a good time to wipe that horrible look off your face.
Carrie: I’m sorry sweetie, I just, I didn’t know. Where have I been?
Miranda: You’ve been having sex. I’ve been at Blockbuster renting videos. It’s tragic. I’m like two rentals away from a free pound of gummy bears.

(to Carrie’s answering machine) “Your good friend Miranda has just taken a piece of cake out of the garbage and eaten it. You will probably need this information when you check me into the Betty Crocker Clinic.”

Kim Cattrall as Samantha Jones

Kim Cattrall as Samantha Jones

Samantha Jones

Samantha works in Public Relations and is the oldest of the four friends. She is also the most sexually liberated of the group. She treats sex as a leisure activity. She has sex like some single men do. Meet them, screw them, leave them and loose their phone number. Most of these guys are only good for one thing in Samantha world, once that is accomplished she really has no more use for them. Most are one night stands although a few will stick around for a few rounds if she likes them. This feisty vixen loves sex and thinks her friends should treat it the same way. All the fun without the headache> in reality, deep down she is actually terrified of being hurt. She is incredibly protective of her friends and has no problem being confrontational. She is a strong and loyal friend who loves the girls deeply and it shows. She and Charlotte clash on occasion. She is a sexual adventurer and will try anything one. She gets a crush on a priest in one episode and has a brief lesbian affair at another time. Then she meets a man named Richard Wright and it will turn her world upside down. The two have the same attitude about sex, they seem a perfect match….to be friends with benefits. Samantha however begins to fall for the handsome hotel magnate. Her heart breaks when she catches him with a different woman. She gives him a second chance but ends things because she does not trust him. Samantha will also be forced to deal with and battle breast cancer. She gives a speech at a cancer dinner benefit and it will make you want to cheer this lovely lady. Samantha quotes:

“I’m gonna say the one thing you aren’t supposed to say. I love you… but I love me more. I’ve been in a relationship with myself for 49 years and that’s the one I need to work on.”

“Yeah, I am harsh, I’m also demanding, stubborn, self-sufficient and always right.”

“I am fifty fucking two, and I will rock this dress!”

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Here is to the ladies that we laughed and cried with. They felt like friends. They made us smile. Their lives were not fairy-tales and were far from perfect. Looking at our lives they could be us and we could be them. Here is to looking up close at each of these dynamic Bad Girls over the next 4 weeks. Now grab a Cosmopolitan, take a sip and catch up with a few episodes and/or the movies that follow these very likable and very real to life characters. See you next week!




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