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The Evolution of Miranda Hobbes

Miranda Hobbes, Type A Personality. She is cynical, sassy, charming, angry, sarcastic, caring and sometimes can be a real bitch. All the characters of “Sex and the City” are defined as very real people and  Miranda rings the most true . She is a woman who has designed her life and has a plan. She does dream but sees the world as black and white. It is one way or the other. Miranda’s world never works the way she designed it and the black and white view of things constantly gets skewered when something unexpected happens. In Miranda’s world this happens more often than not. She is a lawyer by profession and is impassioned about her work. In her personal life she is fiery, intense and sometimes downright vehement. That said she can also be very caring, loving and nurturing. If you were just meeting her you might find her stand-offish because she doesn’t trust people easily. If she takes you into her circle  you couldn’t ask for a better friend. Now come along as we visit with the multifaceted woman named Miranda, a fierce redhead with plenty of opinions. This is “Movie Bad Girl of the Week Television Edition: The Ladies of Sex and the City”

Cynthia Nixon as Miranda Hobbes.

Cynthia Nixon as Miranda Hobbes.

When we first meet Miranda she is very business minded/career-oriented and runs her personal life the same way. She is deathly serious most of the time and it seems that her smiles have to be forced. She seems very angry all the time. She wears little to no make-up and has a wardrobe that is a far cry from the fun and/or elegant fashions of her 3 friends. She is bitter and outspoken and doesn’t really seem to care for men in general. We see her on dates with men that I don’t think anyone would find desirable and it almost seems that these guys (at least to Miranda) are the best she can do. She is the least glamorous and can really be a party killer. When she does find an attractive guy there is always some fault in him that will end the relationship before it is started. In the world of school kids Miranda would be “pick her last.” This would be okay except that Miranda gets mad at her girlfriends and the guys they date as well, not hesitating to point out all the flaws. This is not done out of mean spirit, she really does mean well because she really cares about her girlfriends and most times Miranda is the voice of reason in the group. Miranda is also Carrie’s best friend although they seem they would go together like oil and water. We go on a journey with Miranda and watch as she grows becoming less bitter, more trusting and really does get what she wants out of life.

Miranda out for a night with the girls looking more like she is walking into the courtroom than out to have a good time.

Miranda out for a night with the girls looking more like she is walking into the courtroom than out to have a good time.

Dating

Miranda is seen with quite a few men. Miranda constantly ends up with guys that make her attitude towards dating understandable. So many of the men she ends up with have issues, from a man she meets at a Weight Watchers meeting (he wants to kiss her on the mouth after oral sex and makes her look at Krispy Kreme Glazed Doughnuts in a whole new light) to a man that is more interested in porn than in her. There is also a man with hair plugs, a man that gives her chlamydia (and could care less) and is sexually harassed by a man in a sandwich costume. There are three real relationships she has on the show  one with a young guy named Skipper Johnston (who is smitten with her. She does not want to commit) there is Dr. Robert Leeds (whose heart she will break) and the one that makes a profound difference in her life by turning everything on it’s ear. Where Miranda loves routine and order her relationship with Steve Brady will be anything but.

Steve is the exact opposite of the kind of man Miranda would see herself with. Being a lawyer she envisions herself with someone of equal success. Steve is a bartender. He acts like a kid. He keeps a schedule opposite hers. He can be sloppy and too carefree which rubs her ordered world the wrong way. She begins to develop feelings for him and it scares the hell out of her because she has intimacy issues. Sending her world into further chaos, she gets pregnant with Steve’s baby. They have an sometimes volatile on again/off again relationship that ends up in marriage because Miranda finally realizes that she has found true love and it is not perfect. Despite that she realizes it is gratifying and fulfilling.

Health

Miranda has more than one health issue through the run of the show. She needs eye surgery to correct a vision problem. She finds out she is a tongue thruster causing her to get braces at age 34, made even worse by a teenage girl’s observation that Miranda’s braces are the old fashioned kind, unlike hers that are sapphire. Miranda throws her back out in her bathroom and ends up on the floor. She calls Carrie for help. To Miranda’s horror Carrie sends Aiden over to help and he sees Miranda naked and splayed like roadkill. Miranda suffers from a lazy ovary (that she secretly hopes is just on strike) and still manages to get pregnant at a juncture in her life when she is far from ready to be a mother… she can’t keep a houseplant alive. The baby will be one of the best things to happen to Miranda helping her grow emotionally and become less of a cynic and an incredible parent. In Brady’s first months of life I believe Miranda would have liked to throw herself out a window. I am glad she stuck it out.

Miranda grabbing a quick bite.

Miranda grabbing a quick bite.

Fashion

When we first meet her Miranda is not what most people would call a fashion icon. She dresses in rather drab business attire that can look masculine at times. Keep in mind that she is an attorney working in a man’s world and has a hard time commanding respect from her male counterparts. To dress in attire that would be considered sexy would just open the doors for comments and looks that would be totally unacceptable. She is a smart woman who just wants to work her way up in the corporate world. The decision is a smart one as she wants her peers to take her seriously. When she dresses to go out we see an evolution in the character. She starts out in the series in very simple and forgettable fashions. They are nice and not much else. Miranda over the years begins dressing much better and her short hair becomes far more fashionable along with her wardrobe. The detail I love about Miranda’s wardrobe vs. her friends is that she is not afraid to go out the door dressed down to the degree that would be called frumpy. We see Miranda in overalls with no make-up on and wearing a baseball cap. Thumbs Up! You know we all go out the door that way and should have the confidence to know we are beautiful and can do so.

Carrie and Miranda. Miranda is wearing this outfit to work and it causes one of the higher ups to believe she is a lesbian. She let's him believe it thinking it will help her get ahead in business.

Carrie and Miranda. Miranda is wearing this outfit to work and it causes one of the higher ups to believe she is a lesbian. She let’s him believe it thinking it will help her get ahead in business.

Miranda's dress that is elegant but not memorable.

Miranda’s dress that is elegant but not memorable.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Miranda dressed down with no make-up on. Fabulous! We all go out like this sometimes.

Miranda dressed down with no make-up on. Fabulous! We all go out the door like this sometimes.

We see the new and improved Miranda. Fierce and fabulous and every bit a fashion icon!

We see the new and improved Miranda. Fierce and fabulous and every bit a fashion icon!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The people in her life

Carrie, Charlotte and Samantha: We all need friends to get through life and Miranda is no exception. With the girls she can be cynical and too forward in her opinions. She is loyal to these ladies to a fault and is the voice of reason for the group. She sees things as black and white and speaks exactly what she is thinking. She is Carrie’s rock. Miranda will sometimes become angry at her girlfriends to a point of real ugliness. It is because she loves them and many times can’t understand how they cannot see something that is right in front of their face. There isn’t anything she wouldn’t do for her friends and over the run of the show we see Miranda soften and become a more trusting person in love and in life. This is where our next two characters come in being we have already discussed Steve.

Magda: She is a housekeeper that Miranda hires to help around the apartment. Magda gets involved in Miranda’s personal life although the intrusion is not wanted. This starts the day Magda not only re-arranges her kitchen cabinets but moves her vibrator from the nightstand and replaces it with a statue of the Blessed Virgin. She drives Miranda up the proverbial wall and you would think she would fire the woman…she does not. We learn that Miranda did not have a good relationship with her parents and I believe Magda becomes like the mother she wished she had.

Brady: Miranda and Steve’s baby throws her life into an upheaval. Miranda has to learn to be patient and learn the ins and outs of motherhood. Gone are the days of barhopping and nights out with the girls. Miranda becomes a great mother as she gets the hang of things and later along even feels inadequate because of a hectic work schedule. Miranda will leave her apartment for a real house, she will find a job at a firm that appreciates her and she will marry Steve. She actually gets the dream that she would tease Charlotte for wanting and she realizes that she is not just living it but loving it.

Miranda and Charlotte.

Miranda and Charlotte.

Carrie and Miranda, best friends

Carrie and Miranda, best friends

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What can we learn from Miranda?

We all have plans on how our lives will work. We know the things we want. We work hard for them and then sometimes we get those things. Other times life throws a curve ball that can disorient us and derail our wants. It is a part of life and we have to deal with it as it comes.

We sometimes are led by our emotions. We can be snide and cynical because of events in our lives. We may not trust people easily. We may have had relationships that are less than desirable. We may carry anger. We have to learn, like Miranda does that these things can be destructive to ourselves and to those around us. You have to learn to let the negative things in life go and begin living a life that is more happy and rewarding. We deserve that bliss. Your friends are there for you just like you are for them. Don’t be afraid to talk to them. When you do…don’t be critical of what your friends are doing with their lives. It is not your life, it is their’s. Offer an opinion when it is wanted. Don’t not stomp on their hopes and dreams.

When it comes to dating and relationships they can never be seen as black and white.  Miranda had a picture of a business professional as a mate and then ran into every screwball in town. Each person is a unique individual as we are and you need to take chances. Some are winners and some are losers. If you have a loser cut him loose. If you are being to clear in your mind about who you will or will not go out with, you may just miss the best thing to ever come your way. Of course use logic when saying yes to a date because there are certain people that we know are completely wrong from the word go. When you find that special person it can be in an unexpected place and it can be scary as hell.  Take it a step at the time. No need to rush. There are no rules (unless you are Charlotte) that say you have to. Let the relationship grow and allow yourself to grow with it.

Fashion is something we deal with everyday even if you are just throwing on jeans and a t-shirt. Life is a stage and our wardrobes are our costumes. We all have our own look and style and many times a reason why we dress certain ways. You need to be comfortable with your choices. I have a way I dress for work, a way I dress to be around the house and I have my own style with clothes for going out. I have friends that don’t care for my taste in clothes. I don’t really care. I am the one wearing them. With fashion and life in general they say some people march to their own drum, I brought the entire band. If you are afraid that my clothes are so awful that people are going to stare us down for some (very original and I promise you, on purpose) faux pas I made maybe you should be out with other people. Especially when certain people are really guilty of the fashion crime I am about to mention. Fashion changes at a rapid pace and we need to learn to flow with it. Don’t be afraid to try new things. It is awful to get stuck in a rut and look the same year after year after year. This goes for hair and make-up too. Fashion, hair and make-up are meant to be fun, not just functional so have fun with it! Miranda evolved from bland to scorching hot. We all can. Now go look through your closet and if it has not changed in years it is time to begin a whole new you!

We all have people in our lives and they are there for a reason. Embrace them all. Each person is going to touch your life in some way. Some will be there for a short time, others are there for the long haul. Some people will teach you a lesson, some people will help you get through a hard time, some people will teach you to be caring and then some will touch your lives in a way that changes you so profoundly you will never be able to go back to what was. That  is our own evolution.

Miranda the very first time we saw her.

Miranda the very first time we saw her.

Miranda now.

Miranda now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Miranda Quotes:

(referring to her son Brady who will not stop crying) “No, he’s not sick. He’s not hungry, he’s not teething, he just wants to scream. I’m doing everything I can but I can’t please him. If he was 35 this is when we would break up.”

Miranda: I showed him a boob in a coat check room.
Carrie: Just one?
Miranda: I sensed he couldn’t commit.

(on the phone speaking with Carrie) “I can’t believe I’m eating a frozen dinner. I’m such a cliche.”

Miranda: Maybe it’s time I stopped being so angry.
Carrie: But, what would you do with all your free time?

“You can tell everything about a person by who their friends are.”

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Next week we begin the final “Sex and the City” column. It will be a two-parts on the show’s main character, that fabulous fashionista,  Carrie Bradshaw.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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