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Ask Madeleine Vol.7

Questions are in and so are the answers!  If you haven’t checked it out before, Madeleine is my just-turned-4-year-old daughter.  She loves answering your questions.  Submit them on our FB page. Send them in using the “contact” button.  Whatever works!

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What is love?

Madeleine: Your heart is love. Loving is hugging or kissing. [Can you love someone without hugging or kissing?]  No.  Oh yes, yes you can. [How do you know you love someone?] You just love them. I really love Belle-y.*

*Belle is our wonderful, and very loving, dog.

Stinky Old Mom:  Her answer is as good as mine!

I want to have a party, but I don’t have a lot of money. I really don’t have any money at all. Is there a way to have a party and still have fun without money?

Madeleine: You can have a party at home.  That’s free.  [What about decorations?] You can just make them. Hearts or stars or moons or anything else.  [Can you have a party without food?] NO!!!  You have to have food.  Cake. You can make a cake or borrow some food.

Stinky Old Mom: House parties are great, especially when money is tight.  We all feel it these days.  Having a party at your house is a great way to have fun without spending a bunch (like you would out somewhere).  Make it a pot luck, BYOB, and don’t sweat the small stuff.  Play games.  Invite people that you enjoy.  I use the crock-pot when I want to provide a staple food item for a group.

My go-to is a bag of frozen meatballs and spaghetti sauce.  Serve them on their own.  Provide pasta of your choosing sprinkled with a little olive oil (so the pasta won’t clump together).  I also like to provide rolls and provolone cheese (which you can have people bring) and make mini-meatball subs.

I was going to write up my recipe, but this lady beat me to it.  As always with crockin’, know your pot’s hot zones and cooking times.  I never use the plastic stuff she recommends and I almost never measure.  Make sure you use enough sauce!  I love this because you can toss it in early, leave it on low, and spend the rest of the time doing something else….like cleaning.  There’s nothing like an impromptu party to make you really clean your house!

What do you do if someone is bossing you around too much?

Madeleine: You just walk away.  Or you can run.  Running away is best.  When I have kids, I will be the boss of them and my husband will be the boss of them. [True. Who will be your boss?] You, Momma!  [Correct! And what about Daddy?] He can be the boss of Vivienne.*

*Viv is her little sister.

Stinky Old Mom:  First, I really wish I recorded the boss conversation.  It was amazing.  Second, walking away is a great idea.  This is especially true in the workplace.  Calm down.  Don’t blow up.  If it is a chronic situation, you might actually need to have a conversation.  What about the “bossing” is the problem, exactly.  Really dissect it.  Is it the tone of voice?  Is it the timeliness/frequency of requests?  If you can pull out a few details, without calling the person “bossy”, you might come up with a request that can be met.  For example, I have often been called “bossy.” Most often, it’s my tone of voice people don’t like.  Sometimes, people feel I don’t give them enough time to complete a task before stepping in with “helpful suggestions.”  If people don’t tell me what exactly what is wrong, I can’t fix it.  I’d rather be slightly offended (which I will really try to hide) than continue to struggle with a person.  Also, I make it a point to get over things quickly.  Hope your bossy is the same.  I might be able to provide you with a helpful view-point if you give us more specifics.  Feel free to add any in the comments.  We can try to come up with a tactful way to approach the bossy in your life…

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