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Now is Always the Right Time to Say “I Love You”

Last night, I had the pleasure of seeing the opening of Ghost: the Musical, courtesy of the David A. Straz Center for the Performing Arts.  I will forever be amazed by the theater’s power to enlighten, inspire, and educate. As my friend and I watched the musical, I felt overcome by the power of the present moment.

Right. this. second.

We’ve been talking a lot about mindfulness recently.  Mindfulness has the ability to keep us from anxiety and keep us moving forward when we feel like we are at the end of our rope.  This practice also keeps us connected to our tribe–our individual community of support. We have to pay attention to, recognize, and appreciate those whose support makes our lives easier.

When was the last time you told someone how much you cared about them, thanked them for being in your life, or revealed what you find to be their best traits?  This goes beyond a quick, “Love ya’,” as your partner flies out the door.  When was the last time you gave your friend, lover, or child the gift of being seen?  Really and truly seen.

In the musical, which follows the story from the 1990’s movie, Ghost, follows a long-term couple Sam and Molly.  “Unchained Melody” was a revived hit for years after, and we’ve all seen a parody or two of the famous “pottery scene.”  It had been a ling time since I’d seen the movie, and I had forgotten what it was really about. The musical reminds us, through beautiful songs and spectacular special effects, is how every person needs to be recognized for their true nature. Sam, who struggles with expressing himself through words, doesn’t get the opportunity to tell Molly what she needs to hear.  Molly, lost in her own need, is unable to see all the ways Sam expresses himself to her through loving actions.

Ghost the Musical

Steven Grant Douglas and Katie Postotnik, Ghost The Musical Tour. © Joan Marcus, 2013

Take a second, right now, to send a text to your partner or a family member.  Let them know you are thinking of them.  Go a step further and mark a name on each day of your calendar.  In the morning, or when you have time on that day, send an e-mail (or handwritten note) to the person telling them what you love about them.  It could be the greatest gift you ever give that person. Now is the time.

Here are some prompts to get you started:

* I know you to be/have __(funny, filled with positive thoughts, keen eye for detail, the best fashion sense)__. Remember when, ___(give example of the trait  )___.

* Your ability to __(trait or skill)__ amazes me. Because of __(the trait or skill), I am able to _(name how this person’s trait affects your life)__.

Ghost: The Musical is on stage, at The Straz, from April 22nd to the 27th.  The stage illusions will have you spell-bound. I’m constantly amazed how today’s technology translates to the stage, and comes off as thrilling as a movie! Written by Grammy Award-winners Dave Stewart (from the Eurythmics) and Glen Ballard (co-writer with Alanis Morissette on Jagged Little Pill), the music is a pop score you will want to buy and listen to in your car!  This story is timeless: filled with romance, humor, and action–and a gentle reminder to appreciate the present with people you love.

2 comments

  1. Do you know? I have never seen Ghost the movie! I will have to finally check it out. So glad you enjoyed the musical. It is a great reminder to tell our loved ones we appreciate them–and to truly be present every moment. Thanks for sharing. I will be sure to have some extra love mindfulness today. :)

  2. Great reviews, but I always love your reviews and your perspective on these shows. I love how you turn it into a moment to re-evaluate your own life. Perfect message!

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