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Finding Balance Between Opposite Extremes

Finding Balance Between Opposite Extremes

Aug 29, 2015

Sometimes it seems like every article I write becomes about opposite extremes, and finding balance. I’m beginning to realize that might be because this pattern shows up a lot for me in life… plus this website is about work, and life, and balance. Today, I’m going to talk about how finding balance between opposite extremes relates to the Darwinian concept of the Middle Road, and the Buddhist idea of the Middle Path, or Middle Way, and how that approach can be applied to life and to health, for growth and success. For the philosphers among you, Aristotle’s Golden Mean and Confucious’ Doctrine of the Mean are right up along this alley as well. What got me thinking about all this was a noticing that I often see with clients, and in the health and wellness industry in general, an oscillation between states or practices of deprivation, and states or practices of excess, or hedonism. You may have experienced this yourself, if you have ever been on a very restrictive diet: you’re limiting calories, or carbs, or sugar, or foods that start with the letter T, and at some point, three hours or three days, or three weeks in, you’re standing in front of the fridge with a chicken leg in one hand, and a pint of ice cream in the other. Some of you are shaking your heads no because you’re always calculating and don’t succumb to cravings. For the rest of you, the vast majority of everyone reading this article, uncontrolled indulgence is a natural response to deprivation, and you are not alone. The idea of the Middle Road, per Darwin, came from a combination of the ideas of inductivism and eurekaism: The former suggests that the way to a breakthrough is work, work, work and practice, practice, practice, while the latter suggest that breakthroughs happen in one, spontaneous aha! moment, while dancing in your kitchen listening to techno (Darwin totally listened to techno, I just know it). So Darwin’s idea is not that neither of these approaches work, but that they both work, only not in isolation. They must be combined to be successful. The Buddhist idea of the Middle Path or...

A Preview of Coming Attractions

A Preview of Coming Attractions

Apr 20, 2015

I had a different column in mind for today, however I have changed my mind. This week people everywhere have been very excited by the premier of the new trailer for “Star Wars: The Force Awakens”. I am not one of those people. It did get me thinking about trips to the movies and the trailers for upcoming films being one of the most exciting parts of any trip to the local theater. If I missed any of the previews that trip to the movies was a less satisfying experience. Sometimes the previews are dead on and the sense of anticipation started by the trailer will continue to build until you get to see the actual film. At other times the trailer is far better than the film that is being advertised. I have gathered some of my favorite movie previews from over the years to share. Sometimes I got everything and more when I saw the actual movies and at other times they should have just released the 2 minutes preview instead of the terrible film they actually got you to go spend your hard earned money on. So sit back, relax and enjoy a preview of coming attractions. “The Blue Lagoon” (1980) When I saw the trailer for this it was at that age when hormones are kicking in as we develop into our teenage years. I really wanted to see this movie because Christopher Atkins was nearly naked in the preview and I really wanted to be allowed at the time (in a fairly innocent way) to admire his body. Being the movie was “R” rated I needed an adult to take me and I got my wish. Imagine my surprise (and to be frankly honest) delight that he went full frontal in the movie and I got to see his privates. I think he was my first big celebrity crush. The movie was a beautiful love story and is still a great movie today. Seeing Chris Atkins full frontal now is not very exciting now like it was when I was 13. Sometimes becoming a grown up sucks…lol.   “Bug” (1975) This creepy little gem was the last film by...

“May I interest anyone in coffee or dessert or manners?”

“May I interest anyone in coffee or dessert or manners?”

Apr 6, 2015

Here is my next column on things that get under my skin. I thought of this one yesterday when my husband and I were out for lunch and the woman behind me was being incredibly rude to the restaurant staff. I am serious about everything I am saying in this column and hope it has enough humor in it to make you smile. Alexandra xoxo Over the years I have worked as a server more than once. Sometimes the job can be fun and exciting while at other times it can seem completely thankless. Serving in a restaurant can be exciting and fast paced yet it can also be stressful and emotionally taxing. I am writing this column on behalf of everyone who waits tables to earn an income. It is a list of simple things that you (the diner) should be aware of. It is called common courtesy. There are certain things you should never do while in a restaurant and please take this to heart: I am not pointing fingers. Some of you may do some of these things and not even realize that you are doing it and that is okay. Learn and move forward. If you follow my little list of tips you will make your server happy and make your overall dining experience a much more satisfying one.   A Guide to Good Manners When Dining Out 1. Choosing where to dine When choosing an eatery in which to dine there is one question you should ask yourself. Do I have time for a sit down meal or should I grab something quick at fast food restaurant? There are so many things to factor in here: a. what day of the week is it? I know that may sound funny but restaurants tend to be busier on certain nights of the week. Think of the business on Friday and Saturday night vs. Monday night. On Wednesday do they get large groups after bible studies? Do they have kids night on Tuesday? Is it a sport themed establishment that will have the big game on 5 televisions? All theses things can determine how long service will take. b. what time of...

Dear Cell Phone User,

Dear Cell Phone User,

Mar 23, 2015

Over my next few Monday-Funday columns, I will write about things that get under my skin and bug me. I am serious about the things I am saying and hope I have said it with enough humor to make you smile.  Alexandra xoxo We live life day by day, doing our jobs, taking care of our families, doing our weekly (and sometimes) daily chores. Life at times can be very stressful. There are so many things that can distract us from our daily routine. I am feeling like Michael Douglas in “Falling Down”. I doubt very much that I will go and shoot up a fast food restaurant like he did in the film. Instead I am going to use words. There are some distractions in this world that we could do without and I am calling people out on it. Dear Cell Phone User, There is a time and a place to use your cell phone whether it be for a call or a text message. There are many places where it is not okay. I did not pay $12.00 to go to a movie and have you sit one row behind me and take a call. I understand that sometimes those calls can be important, however, set the phone to vibrate. If it does vibrate please leave the theater to take your call. This is called good manners and quite frankly I don’t give a shit if your kids are fighting over the last Twinkie. If I was the babysitter I’d eat the Twinkie and then the fight would be over. When I am behind you in the drive-through at Burger King (or any other fast food restaurant) do not hold up the worker trying to take your order because you are on your phone. You can stop talking to the caller for 30 seconds and order your Whopper and fries. Have it your way, but for the love of Pete get off the phone to do it. You are being rude to the worker, me and everyone behind me. If your best friend just called to tell you she is pregnant guess what? She will still be pregnant 45 seconds from now!...

Now You Know: Trivia Time!

Now You Know: Trivia Time!

Mar 9, 2015

There are all kinds of questions in our minds. Some we get answers to and others we may never know. I have taken some questions that have always been on my mind and researched to find the answers. What follows is a series of questions and their answers plus random trivia. The answers may not add anything useful to your life except as trivia (and I love filling my head with what I call random and sometimes useless trivia but let’s face it…knowledge is knowledge no matter how trivial) and trivia is just so much damn fun! They say knowledge is power and we never stop learning.  Remember the PSAs that said : “The more you know…”? With the preparing of this column I can say “Now you know” and  you can dazzle people with your new found knowledge (even if it is just trivia) when there is a lull in conversation. Where did the term flea market come from? This is a jocular term for an open-air or street market for mainly secondhand merchandise, which would be the type of items that might be infested with fleas. The first flea markets were in Paris and they were called marché aux puces which translates to ‘market with fleas’. Flea market first appeared in English in 1922 as a translation of the French market’s name. Flea is of Germanic origin (fleah) and was not spelled flea until after 1550. A synonym is flea fair. Whatever happened to Little Mikey from the Life cereal commercial? For those of you who are not familiar and those of you who are here is the classic TV commercial I am referring to: There is an urban legend that John Gilchrist (the actor who played Little Mikey) died from eating Pop Rocks and drinking a carbonated soda at the same time. The story goes that he ate the candy and then drank the soda which caused  his stomach to explode due to a reaction between the two products. For those of you who have never had Pop Rocks here is a description of the candy as found on www.snopes.com while I was researching Little Mikey:  Pop Rocks were a form of carbonated candy made from sugar, lactose, corn syrup, and...

50 States 150 Very Strange Laws Part 2

50 States 150 Very Strange Laws  Part 2

Feb 23, 2015

Let’s continue our road trip as we take a look at the rest of the states and some of the wacky laws that are out there. If you missed the first part you can find it in the Just for Fun section of the WLBPA menu section. Now buckle and let’s travel and see how many stupid things we can do to get arrested in this beautiful country of ours! Montana It is a felony for a wife to open her husband’s mail. from Whitehall, Montana It is illegal to operate a vehicle with ice picks attached to the wheels. from Excelsior Springs, Montana Hard objects may not be thrown by hand….how the hell do kids play baseball? Nebraska Persons with gonorrhea may not marry….maybe this is a good thing. Could you imagine the Honeymoon? *shudders* If a child burps during church, his parent may be arrested. A man is not allowed to run around with a shaved chest. Nevada  It’s still “legal” to hang someone for shooting your dog on your property. from Elko, Nevada Everyone walking the streets is required to wear a mask….I want to live here. It sounds like everyday is Halloween!!!! It would be boring if they mean those medical masks so you don’t spread germs from coughing or sneezing. from Reno, Nevada Sex toys are illegal…Reno also bans brothels. New Hampshire On Sundays citizens may not relieve themselves while looking up….are you listening boys? You will be arrested if you are caught inhaling bus fumes with the intent to inducing euphoria…a bus stops for what? 30 seconds? from Claremont, New Hampshire In regards to cemeteries listen up….you may not  get drunk, picnic, enter at night, and enter by one’s self if you are under the age of 10 and we know all little kids just love to hang out in the cemetery. New Jersey For all you killers out there keep this in mind. You are breaking the law if  you wear a bullet-proof vest while committing a murder. from Manville, New Jersey It is illegal to offer whiskey or cigarettes to animals a the local zoo….you know if this is a law that people have done this….more than...

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