The Chinese Zodiac says that 2013 is the year of the snake. Instead, it is the year of “the stuck.” Many of us are stuck in a job that no longer serves us, stuck in a body we can’t seem to change, and stuck in a home we have grown out of or can’t afford. Some of us are stuck in unemployment, stuck in an unhealthy relationship, or stuck in a hairstyle that won’t seem to grow…Hello, bangs.
How do we remove these blocks in order to move forward?
One step at a time…
It can be overwhelming to look at all the things that need to change in your life, and when we feel overwhelmed we hesitate to make any change at all. Start with just one thing. Make one change and let the change snowball across your life.
I started by ending my addiction to cigarettes. This was just one thing in a life full of things that needed to change for me. I still have that “last pack”—you know the one that you will chain smoke before quitting for real this time. It’s a reminder to me that I made a choice. I don’t need them anymore. Instead of thinking, “I can’t smoke, I shouldn’t smoke, or I quit smoking” I have embraced the phraseology—“I don’t smoke.” The pack has no power over me. It is irrelevant.
My last cigarette was in April of this year. I’m surprised because it wasn’t something I intended. It was a complete accident. Changing just that one thing about me has snowballed into changing other things. I feel encouraged by my ability to let go of a 15 year habit. I feel healthier, which helps me choose healthier activities for myself and my family. There are still areas where I feel stuck. The change snowball will keep rolling, however, and I’m curious to see what it will open up as it barrels through my life.
What is one thing you can really, genuinely change? If breaking a long term habit is daunting—seriously, I did it on accident—try something smaller: doing 10 min. of stretching when you wake up, reading a few pages of a motivational book before bed, drinking a whole bottle of water with each meal, floss your teeth every day. These are just suggestions to get you thinking of one, small, change you can make now. Get the snowball going in your life.
Have you made a change that started movement across your life? I’d love to hear about it. It is fascinating to see how one simple change can cause enough of a shift in our worldview that we can suddenly see other opportunities for growth. Share with me!
P.S. I entered into a conversation about smoking cessation with the wrong person a month or two ago. She went nuts over the fact that I still have that pack. Find what works for you—if you’ve tried to change something before, and it didn’t work, try it again differently—don’t listen to anyone else.
P.P.S. “This 2013 year of Snake is meant for steady progress and attention to detail. Focus and discipline will be necessary for you to achieve what you set out to create.” Fitting, n’est-ce pas? Read more here if you’d like…