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Mind-Blowing Talent: A list of underrated actresses.

Mind-Blowing Talent: A list of underrated actresses.

Mar 31, 2015

We watch movies and television for enjoyment, education and entertainment. We get lost in the worlds that we see on the screen. It is up to the actors to breathe life into the characters we are going on the journey with. You know the stars’ names, for example: Angelina Jolie, Kate Hudson, Julianne Moore and Sandra Bullock just to name a few. When you watch these movies there are always supporting characters (and sometimes a lead that is not well known) played by very talented women. Certain ones you may know the names of, others you may recognize as that woman from (insert title here). This column is about that breed of  lady. Actresses that are at the top of their game although you may only recognize them by sight. You may not know their names but you should. This is a small list of some of the best actresses in Hollywood in my opinion and they take us on wonderful adventures. This is Movie Bad Girl of the Week: Underrated Actress Edition!  Missi Pyle is probably one of the busiest women in Hollywood today. You’ve seen her in dozens of films and/or TV shows. She is well versed in acting and can tackle dramatic or comedy roles and I must admit her comedic timing is impeccable. You may not have been familiar with her name although this tall and beautiful woman is one you recognize on sight. Her first appearance was in 1996 in a film titled “The Cottonwood” and she hasn’t stopped acting since.  If you want to become familiar with Missi and some of the incredible characters she has played here are a few selections out of her filmography: Television: Mad About You: 2 episodes:The Final Frontier Part 1 (1999) The Final Frontier Part 2 (1999) The Drew Carey Show: 1 episode: Drew’s Reunion (1999) My Name is Earl: 1 episode: Broke Joy’s Fancy Figurine (2005) Heroes: 2 episodes: Chapter Fifteen ‘Run!’ (2007) Chapter Sixteen ‘Unexpected’ (2007) Movies: “Galaxy Quest” (1999) Laliari “Josie and the Pussycats” (2001) Alexandra Cabot “Bringing Down the House” (2003) Ashley “50 First Dates” (2004) Noreen “Charlie and the Chocolate Factory” (2005) Mrs. Beauregarde “Gone Girl” (2014) Ellen Abbott Here...

True Confessions from Twelve Years of Marriage

True Confessions from Twelve Years of Marriage

Mar 30, 2015

Today marks twelve years in my marriage. If practicing something for 10,000 hours makes you an expert at something, I guess that makes me an expert at marriage. Well, it makes me an expert at my marriage at least. After twelve years, however, I am still practicing. And in this practice, I have discovered a few key elements and beliefs that have led to a place of contentment and satisfaction after twelve years. The following confessions are lovingly whispered to any and all people who have chosen a partner to love inside a marriage. Certainly much of this applies to all long-term relationships, but there is something special about taking legal action to bind yourself to another–a right all people deserve.   Confession One: Marriage consists of two living beings. A marriage is alive. As with all living things there is continuous growth. Think of two plants side by side. Neither one will grow in the same way or even in the same direction. Even if the two plants are the same type of plant, they will not look or behave the same way all the time. One may need more water for a time, one might need a different set of nourishment or to be turned a different direction. To think of marriage as a “thing,” as an inanimate state, is poison. That thinking prevents the possibility of movement that would allow each participant to grow in the healthiest way. Recognizing marriage as a living organism prevents resentment when one individual starts to grow in a new direction or requires different care. Confession Two: Support is more important than happiness. “Happiness” is a loaded notion. The very expectation of “happy” can ruin actual contentment. People feel like if their level of happiness isn’t dripping with honey, if they aren’t jumping out of their seats and dancing in the street, that they aren’t truly happy, or that something needs to be fixed. Happiness is also a very personal feeling. It is a mistake to think of a relationship as happy. Think about phrases you often hear: the happy couple, wedded bliss, happily married. People have asked me many times over the year, “Are you happy in your...

Musing #43: The Prince George Method (A Coping Strategy)

Musing #43: The Prince George Method (A Coping Strategy)

Mar 27, 2015

What you’re about to read, however ridiculous, is 100% true. I am, if nothing else, an escapist. I shamelessly prefer the worlds of cinema, literature, music and history to that of living, breathing humans any day of the week and thrice on Sunday. Not saying that’s a good thing, just saying it’s an actual thing about me. Movies, books, songs and true stories don’t “flake” — a nasty, insidious term that really means “fail to give a flying fuck” — and they don’t hurt feelings. Unrelentingly dependable, they always enjoy your esteemed company. They don’t give a shit what you look like. You needn’t even bathe to hang out with them. And the more of them with which you’re familiar, the larger the pool of human beings to whom you can relate in the hideous realm of real life. When else fails, there’s always STAR WARS to discuss, wheresoever one may roam. Today, we’ll be roaming transatlantically…to the site of EPISODE 7‘s recent film shoot. And by “film,” I do mean “film.” For it was, triumphantly, shot on “old-school” 35mm…complete with Guru Carrie Fisher! I have, for months, intended to share the silliness that follows this verbose introduction. The right time for said silliness is clearly now, given yesterday’s fascinating reburial of King Richard III. That’s right, we’re talkin’ British monarchy! If you’ve read the Musing about my literary gurus (#17), you know that “Princess Leia” is (in her writerly capacity) the lone American among the four invoked. The other three — Charles Dickens, Christopher Hitchens and Dame Agatha Christie — all hail from Britannia. I’m a hardcore, unabashed, lifelong Anglophile. I devote far more time than any non-diplomat American should to pondering the UK, even proudly writing as occasional “NYC Correspondent” for British satire magazine THE INCONSEQUENTIAL.* Moreover, I harbor an until-now-secret dream of one day becoming United States Ambassador to the Court of St. James. I’m dead serious, absurd though the notion may be. Far more absurd, of course, is the entire notion of primogeniture (great word, though it be). This is the point at which I address crotchety Americans who begrudge their countrymen an insatiable interest in the English royal goings-on. Coveting Kate’s clothes isn’t tantamount to sanctioning political primogeniture, assholes! Arguably, it’s far less controversial for us to dig the Windsors than...

How Do You Find The Time?

How Do You Find The Time?

Mar 25, 2015

By Vee Pope “How do you find the time?” I’m trying to break up with how that question makes me feel. It has simultaneously irked me and made me feel productive. My over analytical mind asks if it’s a loaded or genuine question all the time. I never know but what I do know is that I can control how I react to it.   So, how do I find the time? I can say I simply make the time to do the things I want to do, or I can show you how I have tried to master the art of time management. One thing I want to make clear to those who are taking the time to read this: I currently have How I Met Your Mother playing, another “work” computer is running, and I just finished texting with both of my parents. Also, I did not sit down to write this in one sitting. Now, I recognize multi-tasking might not be effective for certain tasks. I’m not claiming to be perfect in this area of my life, but I can still provide tips on how you can better manage your time. Let’s just say I have spent a lot of time researching time. Okay–these tips can apply to anyone and I mean ANYONE! Time is not gender, age or race specific. It doesn’t matter if you are a mom, single, dad, married, teen or toddler (well, some of the tips may not apply to toddlers).  We can tackle these together! Find a hobby: No matter who you are or how your days and weeks are structured, you absolutely need to find a healthy outlet to build into your routine. Hobbies can contribute to eustress, which is a healthful dose of stress or quite literally speaking “good stress”. Eustress is that feeling of excitement about life. It keeps us revitalized and positive. So pick up that book or go on those walks and treat yo’ self to a HOBBY! Write everything down: My planner obsession is unhealthy. Trust me, I recognize that, but I have also met people who wished they had one. While whipping out my planner to schedule future appointments, people will comment on how they just...

Donna Reed would be horrified!

Donna Reed would be horrified!

Mar 24, 2015

We watch television pretty much everyday of our lives where we can be entertained, educated and informed. Some of you may even watch the racy channels to spice up your life a bit. When we love a show we invest in the characters and want to watch their exploits, adventures and dramas on a weekly basis. Watch a show enough and you actually feel like you know the characters and it is like visiting with cherished friends. The family dynamic is always a great subject for a show. This week we are visiting with some TV moms. Who do you think of when I say TV mom? Carol Brady? June Cleaver? Florida Evans?                   We think of these wonderful and delightfully loving mothers when we hear the term TV mom and the list goes on and on. This week we are pushing these ladies aside and doing a count-down on terrible TV moms. Don’t get me wrong. Each character I have selected does love her family (even if it is in her own strange way) but her parenting skills leave much to be desired. This is Movie Bad Girl of the Week: Television Edition: Terrible TV Mom Awards. So without further hesitation we begin and I am saving who I believe is the worst mom in television history for last. This is going to be fun!   The Award for the mom who needs a lesson in not spoiling her kids and learning how to be a decent human being goes to:  Harriet Oleson: “Little House on the Prairie” Katherine MacGregor is so deliciously bitchy as Harriet Oleson. She is the wealthiest woman in town and has decided that because of this she is better than everyone and treats them as such. Harriet care about one thing…Harriet.  She is also the town gossip loving nothing more than sticking her nose into other people’s business and spreading rumors. She wears the pants in the family and why her husband (it must be love) puts up with it is beyond me. The problem is she spoils her kids and teaches them to be snobs and they walk around treating...

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