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Facing Your Demons

Facing Your Demons

Jan 13, 2015

This column is based on the film “Friday the 13th Part VII: The New Blood” (1988) and contains spoilers Tina Shepard is your average teenage girl. She has hopes and dreams. She is pretty and likable. She also possesses a special talent. She is telekinetic. When Tina was a young girl she didn’t have an ideal home life. Her father was an alcoholic. When he drank he became violent. One night her father, in a nasty rage, began beating her mother and young Tina couldn’t take it. She ran to the dock behind her house a pushed off into the lake in a rowboat. Her father realizing she fled runs out on the dock asking her to come back to the house. He may have been an abusive drunk but he did love his daughter. In a fit of rage Tina lashes out at her father with her telekinetic powers causing the dock to collapse into the lake with him. Tina’s actions accidentally kill her father as he is dropped into the lake and crushed by the dock  . For the next 10 years she will spend time in a psychiatric hospitals and years in therapy because of the guilt she harbors over the death of her father and now her psychiatrist Dr. Crews is bringing her back to Crystal Lake where the tragedy occurred. He says it is to work through the post-traumatic stress of the incident. The doctor’s intentions have nothing to do with helping Tina. He knows that her power only shows itself when she is under extreme emotional stress and he wants to document her ability so he can make a name for himself. Dr. Crews knows bringing her back to the scene of the crime will be the perfect catalyst. When they arrive there is a group of young people who have rented the house next door. She meets one of the boys named Nick. There is an instant attraction much to the chagrin of a spoiled rich girl named Melissa who will bully and torment Tina because she wanted Nick for herself. Tina’s mom wants her daughter to spend a little time with the kids and live life...

Vintage Ads…What were they thinking?

Vintage Ads…What were they thinking?

Jan 12, 2015

We are bombarded by ads on television, on the radio and even in movie theaters nowadays. You can’t turn a magazine page without seeing an ad for shampoo, clothing or a food product. It is part of our culture. We are going to take a look back at some vintage ads. Some of these ads are shocking to me in their own special way. Why you ask? Because some are terribly offensive. These ads do not reflect my personal opinion. I promise you will get my opinions as we go. I am also including some scary food ads just for fun. I am still sitting here scratching my head at some of these, wondering….what were they thinking? Keep in mind that these are real vintage ads exactly as they appreared. Move over 50 Shades of Grey. First up we have a wonderfully educational booklet asking the question “Do you still beat your wife?” For a low 15 cents you can find out the merits of this wonderful activity. Look at the picture. The husband and wife seems to both be enjoying it. Really guys? Here is a little girl with a dynamite smile. She can grow up to be…brace yourself…A Receptionist! Not a dentist, lawyer or police officer. She is only going to grow up to be a woman after all. Someone needs to smack her dentist upside the head with his dental drill to get that smug look off his face. She is 13 quit checking her out. I’ll just bet you want to hire her for her dazzling teeth. If this is not skinny what did she look like before?   This? Now let’s look at this ad….this is chubby? What did she like before? This? While we are at it here is my picture….Welcome to the side show where you will be amazed! Meet our fat lady Alexandra! You won’t believe your eyes or her size. Count em! 220 pounds! It is no wonder girls and women worry about their weight with all this conflicting information. The skinny girl gains weight. Then we see the chubby girl who is the exact same size. I am going to find a job in the Carnival...

Looking Back to Learn and Move Forward

By Mo Breden One week into the New Year 2015 and I find myself continuing to assess my choices and options for this New Year. 2014 had some heartbreaking moments for me personally, but it also had some joyous and celebratory moments. I worked hard for the celebratory moments and the heartbreakers crashed into me like a tsunami. I’m not a believer in New Year’s resolutions. You are either going to change and develop better habits or you are not, and the beginning of a New Year isn’t going to make any difference in your chances of success. Life is like the ocean that I love so much. There are tides, and currents and sometimes things flow smoothly and with great ease. Other times, huge waves push and pull you away from your goal and you have to fight hard just to stay in place and not get lost. So very much like life, isn’t it? As each year passes, I realize, I really have learned a lot during my time in the ocean, and each swim teaches me more lessons to help me find my way, just like my life. I love to swim…love is an essential key. I believe the sea loves me too. So when I dive into the water, I feel that I am being welcomed home, again and again. In my life I’ve learned that loving my family and friends is key to my life. I am so grateful for the love I’ve been able to give and the love and acceptance I’ve received. Some days I swim, some days I stay onshore so that others may swim. Giving, so that others may know the same joy I have known is another life lesson, learned in the ocean. Giving of myself for others comfort or joy is key to my life. It really is true that it is better to give than to receive; it’s something to think about and remember in this New Year. I work hard when I swim, but I also have fun. Some days it’s more of a struggle then others, but then there are the days when a pelican flies right over my head,...

Why be normal? Embrace your individualism

Why be normal? Embrace your individualism

Jan 6, 2015

This column is based on the movie “Wolf Girl” aka “Blood Moon” (2001) and contains spoilers. Tara (Victoria Sanchez) is like any teenage girl. She is bright, perky, beautiful and enjoys life.  She was also born with a rare condition called hypertrichosis. This condition causes hair to grow all over her body giving her the appearance of being part animal and part human.  Tara is part of a traveling show called Harley Dune’s Natural Wonders and Amazing Curiosities.  For lack of a better term it is a freak show. Her family includes the show’s owner Harley Dune (Tim Curry), Christoph/Christine (Grace Jones) a hermaphrodite and Athena the Fat Lady with a heart of gold (Darlene Cates). Each person with the show is unique. This is the only world Tara has ever known. Tara’s role in the show is performing as the terrifying Wolf Girl. We meet a group of teens who are bullies. They are led by a nice looking boy named Beau (Shawn Ashmore) who is a total jerk. Out of all the teens in the area we meet the object of their affection, Ryan Klein (Dov Tiefenbach) a nerdy boy they enjoy picking on. The bullies see the show coming into town and go to watch them set up. They see Tara and decide they have found someone new to pick on. Ryan also sees the show coming into town and like the other 4 goes to watch as well. He sees Tara for the first time and sees a beautiful girl who he feels is a kindred soul. Tara has a conversation with Athena. She questions Athena, who is a surrogate mom to her, that she (Tara) was always a freak and Athena at one time had not been fat. She wants to know what it feels like to be normal. Athena tells her normal wasn’t that great. The first night (the teens harass her throughout the film) of the show the teens throw feces on Tara while she is doing her act. She understands that they hate her just because she looks different. It hurts her deeply. The same night Ryan leaves Tara a note claiming that he may be able to help...

It’s New Year’s Day! …Now What?

It’s New Year’s Day! …Now What?

Jan 1, 2015

 A Guide to Walking the Middle Road. In my last article, I wrote about eschewing New Year’s Resolutions in favor of being with, and listening to, yourself in the present moment. In the last few days I’ve seen a number of email newsletters and posts on social media from people saying “forget these, my resolution this year is to make no resolutions and do more of I what I want, and less of what I don’t”. This target is exactly what being with and listening to yourself in the present moment helps you do: more of what your innermost intelligence and desire guides you towards, and less of what your innermost intelligence responds to with a big old YUCK. So either you made resolutions or you didn’t, but chances are that as the end of 2014 approached, you had some sort of emotion or idea arise about the year behind you, and the year ahead: how 2015 would be the same or different, life milestones that might or might not happen, or even the simple unfolding passage of time, which seems to be speeding up for many of us. And now it’s January first, and I’ve thrilled to be writing this article today, because we’re sitting, right now, right here, in the middle of the first day of the rest of our lives. I don’t know about you, but when I think about it that way, my thoughts seem to go in one of two directions. Direction one is, WOW, what do I want to create now, what does this year hold for me!?! The second direction is, WHOA, can I actually pull off everything I expect of myself/make all these changes, or even figure out where to begin? Keep in mind this is the reaction to 2015 of someone who chooses not to make resolutions! The forward momentum of change is still here. Common to both of these responses is a bit of a heavy burden. The burden of creating the future and making change, or choosing not to. The (possible) burdens of action, intention, and integrity. I have learned the hard way, over and over again, that a hard-driving focus (at least...

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