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Coming Soon! A look into 2015

Coming Soon! A look into 2015

Dec 30, 2014

I can’t believe another year is gone. Where did the time go. It flew by. This week’s column is going to be short and sweet. I want to give you a little preview of what to expect in the upcoming year. The column will still be about bad girls but you will see a few changes in the format. I want to mix it up a little in 2015 in be able to offer something new. As much as I love Movie Bad Girls and in reality the Bad Girl spectrum is much bigger than that. This is Movie Bad Girl of the Week. 2015 is going to be a big year. I have covered the bad girls of cinema for the last 2 years and feel it is time to give this column a make-over. Do not worry, there will always be movie bad girls here. I want to add to this column and offer you more than I have in the last 2 years. Amazing women and bad girls are everywhere and I don’t want you to miss out on any of them! As for our traditional Movie Bad Girls. They will always grace this column, just not every week now. I have some wonderful movie characters planned for 2015 including: Scarlett Johansson as “Lucy” The ladies of “Kill Bill” The ladies of “X-Men” Sandra Bullock as Dr. Ryan Stone in “Gravity” Kristen Connolly as Dana in “The Cabin in the Woods” Sigourney Weaver as Mary Griffith in “Prayers for Bobby” With new movies being released on a weekly basis new names will also pop up on this list which is far from complete for this year.       This year I have decided we are going to have some television bad girls of the week. There are so many great shows out there with incredible and strong ladies in the leads and they deserve a little attention as well. Some of my current favorites are Téa Leoni as Secretary of  State Elizabeth McCord in “Madam Secretary”, The kick ass ladies of “The Walking Dead”, the vicious vixens of “American Horror Story and Katey Sagal as Gemma Teller Morrow in “Sons of Anarchy”...

Goodbye 2014, Hello 2015

Goodbye 2014, Hello 2015

Dec 29, 2014

I can’t believe that in just a little more than 48 hours another year will have passed. So much has happened this year, yet my mind is wondering how 2014 can already be over. It seems so short, where did it go? I have learned that as I get older time seems to pass at a more rapid rate although it passes at the same speed it always has. I think back to when I was in grade school and our 12 week summer break seemed like an eternity. Now I find myself thinking “Wow! Are the kids going back to school already?” The end of the year is a good time to give ourselves a pause to look back and reflect on what was. It is also a chance to open our minds with the endless prospects of what the New Year can be. What are our desires, wishes, hopes and dreams for 2015? First I am going to look back, then I will tell you what I hope for 2015. Looking back on 2014 I know that my life is good, not perfect by any means but good. There have been ups and downs, laughter and tears, hellos and goodbyes, through it all there has been unconditional love and support. That is something you cannot put a price tag on. If you have love that is unconditional and solid you don’t really have to sweat the negative things that happen. You will get through them. I know I did. 2014 was not the best year I’ve ever had and it isn’t the worst. It presented many challenges that I had to rise to and other things came easy. Take my hand as I go down memory lane, looking back on what was. The years didn’t start with a bang. It was business as usual. Early in the year I lost my day job. That was scary to me. I talked things over with my husband and we decided I would take a leap of faith and write full time. The writing full time has been an exciting and new adventure. Although I am making money it is not enough. Working from home...

Musing #40: Self-Inflicted Mishap and Misplaced Care (or, Resting Bitch Face)

Musing #40: Self-Inflicted Mishap and Misplaced Care (or, Resting Bitch Face)

Dec 26, 2014

“Yeah, we’ve met before.” Oh, how I dread those words. Every morning for the last four-and-a-half years, I have awakened to (involuntarily) asking myself the same, awful question: “Whom did you piss off yesterday?” It’s (utterly self-inflicted) torture. Forget what catalyzed that shit in the summer of 2010. The point is that I’m an other-than-morning person on the best of days, partly because I don’t drink coffee. But beginning every recent day consumed by fear of my own already-executed, however-inadvertent behavior? It’s a wonder that I get up at all. And the ghastliest part of this daily waking inventory of interpersonal mishap? It doesn’t reflect paranoia. The worry is warranted. It’s a fact that I’m perpetually pissing people off…without meaning to. And it’s a further fact that it all hurts me far more than it does any of those off whom I piss. (Take comfort, all ye inadvertently-pissed-off people!) Because my biggest problem (in this realm) is caring too much about the wrong people, and failing to recognize the right ones. But, at least, I know it. There’s a chick in Brooklyn who has, for nearly a decade, referred to yours-truly as Resting Bitch Face. Needless to say, I am no fan of this girl. She’s decidedly not among those about whom I wrongly care. Neither is she among the so-called right ones. She can kiss my Resting Bitch Ass. But the derivation of the “RBF” sobriquet is sadly demonstrative of the personal foible in question, so here it is… As I’ve written in this space so many times before: I deplore my own face, and my contact lenses are for performance. Almost exclusively. I find contacts to be very uncomfortable. And, frankly, I can’t open my (in too many senses) myopic, chronically-late eyes enough in the morning to put them in anyway. I wear glasses, which is to say that I do so now. For many, many years, I summarily and absurdly refused to wear even glasses, despite being blind as a proverbial bat. Why? Because all is comfort and vanity. (Duh. Not saying that’s good. Just saying it’s true.) Now, what does a self-conscious, own-face-hating, vainly-bat-blind chick look like at social gatherings?...

2014 in Review Part 2

2014 in Review Part 2

Dec 23, 2014

As the year is drawing to a close I have decided to look back over the ladies we have visited with the year. I always enjoy looking back . The ladies covered were a diverse group and the movies they are in are a lot of fun to watch. With this walk down memory lane we will have remembered what was and will now be prepared for 2015 and all the new bad girls to fill up these columns. This is Movie Bad Girl of the Week. 2014 was a big year and we visited many ladies from many different films. Here is a look back. We took a look at Romy White in the wonderful comedy “Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion”. The story is about 2 best friends that were on the outside. They really didn’t notice this as teens because they always had a blast except for their dealings with Christy Masters and the “A” group (popular kids) in school. 10 years later they get an invitation to their reunion and doubt sets in. Romy talks to (her still best friend) Michele and convinces her that in the 10 years since graduation they haven’t done anything good enough to finally find acceptance from the “A” group. They concoct a crazy plan that unravels and discover that their lives are fine just the way they are. You shouldn’t have to lie about who you are to impress someone. Does it really matter what the “Christy” in your life thinks? Is it going to affect your job? Family? Day to day life? Then the hell with her. The truth is a better option. Biggest lesson: Just be you. Don’t feel like you have to change to please someone else or find acceptance. If they don’t like you for who you are that is their problem. You are good enough just the way you are. Learn it, love it, live it. We also visited with the character Christine Hargensen in “Carrie” For this particular column I selected the 2013 version of the film. This column was meant to bring up awareness about bullying whether you child is being bullied, or even worse, is the bully. This...

Give Yourself the Gift of Less Stress 

Give Yourself the Gift of Less Stress 

Dec 19, 2014

A busy holiday season is upon us, and New Year’s resolutions are right around the corner. It’s easy to get caught up in a frenzy of over-spending, over-eating, over-celebrating, and plain old over-doing…and when you come out the other side, there’s this idea that’s planted on our heads every year about setting some goals to be better, or to do better, in the months to come. For some, setting New Year’s resolutions are a joy: they imagine the projects they will take on, outline goals and action plans, and maybe add a vision board or inspirational planner to the mix. For others New Year’s resolutions are another chance to look at “what still needs to be done” or “what I didn’t get around to/do right/do enough of this year.” A time to measure lack rather than engage with inspiration. It can be easy to fall into some tension or letdown here, right on the heels of holiday mayhem. I’m not going to list out the pros and cons of these two strategies, or how to switch from on camp to the other. You can teach yourself more about that with some internet searches for things like “intention setting” or “mind mapping” or “bucket list”. I’m not going to suggest opting out, either (of course you can do whatever you want). I suggest, instead, making some now. Not resolutions for next year, but resolutions about here and today: about how you want to finish off 2014. Is there something you’ve been putting off? A certain way you want to spend this time? A project that you swore you’d start, or habit to break or integrate? Start now. Take one step. When stress is defined as the difference between who you are and how you behave or express, there is fundamental stress in pushing through busy holiday activity when you really want or need some peace and quiet; Likewise in spending a lot of time alone, if you are craving connection. There is stress inherent in putting off taking just one step forward with that dream project, or away from something you dislike, or leaving a mess on the floor if you desire it clean. Taking one...

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