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Vida Boheme, Not Your Average Girl

Vida Boheme, Not Your Average Girl

Jul 22, 2014

I hope you enjoyed my book club columns over the last 3 weeks. This week we are back to the regular format and I have chosen a very special Movie Bad Girl. We are going to visit with Vida Boheme. She is every bit a lady always dressing with the glamour and style that existed in the 40’s, 50’s and 60’s. She is always coordinated with every hair in place and her make-up is perfection. She exudes femininity. Oh there is one more thing you should know about her…Vida is a drag queen. The movie is “To Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything! Julie Newmar” and this is Movie Bad Girl of the Week! Vida Boheme is a female impersonator who is one of the stars on stage in the New York City club scene. She has overcome great obstacles including coming from a wealthy family who disowned her for being who she truly is. Although it hurts her very deeply she let her family know that their approval was not needed and has had no further contact with them. Her family now are now her fellow performers. One of her closest sisters is Noxeema Jackson (played by Wesley Snipes). On the night we meet Vida she and Noxeema are competing in a pageant. They are vying for the title “Drag Queen of the Year.” The prize is an all expense paid trip to Hollywood with a chance to compete in the “Miss Drag Queen of America Pageant” and it is one of the biggest titles out there for gender illusionists.  That night in the contest is a drag newcomer who is inexperienced but hopes to win. She is a Latin queen (John Leguizamo) named Chi-Chi Rodriguez. Vida and Noxeema tie for the prize so they will both be sent to the big show. Chi-Chi is shattered. Vida sees Chi-Chi crying on the stairs after the contest. She feels sympathy for this “drag princess” and befriends her. She talks Noxeema (against her better judgement) into selling their airline tickets to California and purchasing a car and driving so they can take Chi-Chi with them. Although Noxeema argues the point Vida gently reminds her what it is...

50 Random Facts About Myself

50 Random Facts About Myself

Jul 21, 2014

With so much social media at our fingertips and the ability to talk to people anywhere in the world just using a few keystrokes, making a list of random facts about yourself can be fun. It can help people get to know you better and they in turn can share random facts about themselves whether it be questions they answer or random things they choose to volunteer. I am making a list with 50 random facts about myself that will let you know a little about me and my life. This can also be something fun to do as a family activity. It will be both fun and surprising as you find out what random items ( it doesn’t have to be 50, any number will do) they come up with about their life. I’ll do a list with 10 questions and then I will share 40 random items as they pop into my head. When making a list like this make sure what you share (on social media) isn’t an answer that may refer to your passwords for different sights on the internet. Always be safe when sharing. 1. What is your favorite movie? “The Exorcist” 2. As a child I wanted to be ________ when I grew up. An archaeologist was my very first choice…this did not happen. 3. What is your favorite scent? Sandalwood 4. What is your favorite color? Black 5. If you could remove one thing from the world what would it be? Hate 6. What is your favorite TV show of all time? “Keeping Up Appearances” 7. What is your favorite book? “To Kill a Mockingbird” 8. What is your biggest fear? Alligators and Crocodiles. 9. Is there anything you regret doing in your life? I don’t regret anything because each life experience has helped make me who I am today. In hindsight if I could go back with what I know now I might do a few small things differently. The lessons were learned after the fact. 10. What was your favorite cartoon as a child? “Underdog” Now I will share 40 random facts: 11. The first movie I saw more than once in a movie theater...

On Turning 60

On Turning 60

Jul 18, 2014

By Mo Breden Yes, I turned sixty years old this week. I have always welcomed my birthdays, aging has never been something that I feared or became depressed about, I did hesitate a bit on the brink of this birthday, but that was just a little hiccup. As I have done most of my life, when something was inevitable, and I know it must be done, I jump in and get it done, and so I did with this birthday. For many, many years now I have chosen to spend my birthday week at the beach, doing some of my favorite things, with some of my favorite people. In that respect this birthday was no different than any other. Swimming, reading, sleeping, walking, eating, laughing and sharing my love of life with family and dear friends who are able to spend a day or two with me. My daughter always spends the full week and I love this time with her. This year as I was about to climb into bed she comes up the hall and into my room and says, “there’s a baby lizard on the ceiling above my bed” I said, “really? And to me this means? What?”, to which she replied, “well, what are you gonna do about it?” I did laugh pretty hard, this is my Erin. We had a keystone comedy getting the little guy off the ceiling but were unsuccessful at capturing him, but he was off the ceiling and we have not seen him again. Nothing is perfect, and neither has been my life and some of the choices I have made, but I accept fully and with a grateful heart that it is what it is. I have felt blessed and I have felt cursed, but I have grown emotionally and spiritual into the person I am today and I am at peace with who I am. I do feel as if a switch has been flipped inside of me and my intentions are to do and say more of what I truly want and feel. I care so very less about what “people” think of me. I know this is going to sound arrogant,...

Bad Girls Book Club: The Final Chapter

Bad Girls Book Club: The Final Chapter

Jul 15, 2014

Over the last 2 weeks I have made some recommendations for your summer reading enjoyment. This will be the final week of my Book Club suggestions. I hope you look up one or two of the titles and admire the books as much as I did. This week, as with last, I am choosing titles without worrying whether the main character is a bad boy or bad girl. These books were intended for everyone’s pleasure. Let me know some of your favorite summer reads. I am always looking for a new title or author. In the meantime here is my final list for this year.  I hope you find something on my list that brings some fun into your summer. “Twilight Eyes” by Dean Koontz (1987) This book was originally published in 1985 in a shorter version under the title “Land of Enchantment.” For this column I am referring to the expanded version of the story. There is a war raging in the world. The players are invisible. They are goblins and they can take on the appearance of humans at will. The transformation is so completer that you could be standing in a crowd of them and be no wiser. Their mission in life is to bring pain, suffering and death to people. It is how they achieve their greatest pleasure. Also within the world is a very small group of people who can see through this charade viewing the goblins for what they are. These people are a danger to the goblins and they will stop at nothing to murder them to preserve their own race. Slim MacKenzie is one of the people with the gift of sight. He refers to this gift as Twilight Eyes. When we meet Slim he is on the grounds of a traveling carnival hunting one of the beasts down. It is a vicious battle and Slim barely comes out the victor. Slim has traveled place to place killing these monsters. He is also running from a past where he was forced to kill an uncle who was one of the goblins in disguise. Through circumstances he takes a job with the carnival. He is employed by a...

Block Out The Negativity

Block Out The Negativity

Jul 10, 2014

By Mo Breden How are outside influences sabotaging your goals–without you being aware that sabotage is in motion?! In order to accomplish any goal you set for yourself, you first have to have a positive feeling about your ability to reach that goal, the key word here being positive. It doesn’t matter what that goal is, you have thought about it, thought about accomplishing it, and you or perhaps, key advisors have approved of your goal. All positive so far. As you venture into the accomplishment of your goal you are going to run up against your own doubts. If you have been honest with yourself, you will find you either think you CAN do it or you think you CAN’. And if you think you can’t, well on to the next goal, folks!  Don’t waste your or anyone else’s time. Acquaintances, friends and family are all going to have an opinion on the goal you have set. If you care about their opinion then ask them, if you don’t, don’t ask them. Here’s the rub, they are going to tell you anyway, in one-way or another. Depending on the kind of person they are even if they “say” they support you they may express their true opinions in attitudes, off hand references, and negativity. The worst thing for you in accomplishing your goal is negativity. Negativity is like an infection, it’s there and its not pleasant, but then you start to think about it, you start to talk to others about it, you try to figure it out, you try to make it better, and pretty soon you are not focusing on your goal, you are wrapped up in full blown negativity disease. It side tracks you and leads you away from the direction you have set for yourself. I recently set a goal for myself and I have experienced all of the above. Making the decision to bar negativity from my life at this point is what is currently the key to my continued pursuit of my goal. Ok, you say, so how do you do that….well, I certainly don’t have the power to stop negativity, there is always going to be something or someone negative in your sphere. The trick...

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