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Use Your Past Jobs for Future Employment

Use Your Past Jobs for Future Employment

Jun 18, 2014

We talk about the “What-Now” part of our lives, that many of us are living through, frequently on this site. Part of what leads us to creating our own balance and designing the life we actually want to live is the “what-now” moments. After feeling trapped in the barren wasteland of an unfulfilling job, mounting bills, poor health, and every other part of life seems to weigh even more.  There can be a beautiful blossoming out of this wasteland when we start designing a plan of attack. Once the negative thinking starts circulating around our thoughts, many people turn negative thinking inward. We start thinking, “I’ve never been good at anything. My life never seems to work out like I’ve planned.” Completely wrong.  A few weeks ago, we interviewed a fantastic guest on the Sippin’ Social Hour. Suzanne Perry, co-owner of three successful restaurants, spoke very candidly about starting a business from a dream.  She shared with us lessons she has learned about engaging her employees, how she uses new media, and their willingness to change as often as necessary to keep their business relevant and thriving. She also spoke about how her “past lives” in other jobs all informed her current incarnation as restaurateur. Listen Here Two Her Two Part Interview: Part 1 and Part 2 (where she talks about combining all her skills from former jobs). Hope!  As I listened to her speak about her skills transferring from one job to another, I thought about how many people feel like they are in a dead-end, wasting their time.  This time, however painful or unchallenging as it may feel, is not wasted.  You are collecting skills, experience, and lessons you will need for your future self. Even if you have no idea where you would like to go, even if all you know if “this isn’t working for me,” you can start collecting your skills. The first step is to identify the skills you currently have. Here is a link to a great worksheet that will help you identify, track, and rate skills you already have. It’s a great exercise to prove to your current job/place is actually providing you with something! It’s also...

My Heart Belongs to Daddy?…

My Heart Belongs to Daddy?…

Jun 17, 2014

With Father’s Day upon us I got to thinking about movies with fathers who play a key role in the plot. This movie, which I had not seen in years, came to mind. If you love the thrillers that they show on Lifetime television then this movie will be right up your alley. The movie is “Benefit of the Doubt” (1993) It stars Donald Sutherland and Amy Irving in a tale of a father’s obsessive love. This is Movie Bad Girl of the Week.  *This column contains spoilers* Karen Braswell at age twelve provided testimony against her father when he was being tried for murdering her mother. That testimony put her father away. As he was being led out by the police he leans over and tells Karen “Daddy won’t forget this.” When the movie opens it is 22 years later and Frank has earned his freedom. He has always stood by his statement that his wife’s death was an accident. He heads back to his hometown and his daughter whom he has not seen since the trial. Karen is now a 34 year old single mother trying to make ends meet. She works as a waitress in a topless bar. Her money is tight and like many of us is (we learn in her first scene) not a perfect parent although she tries her hardest. We will learn in the movie that money is so tight that sometimes there is little to no food in the house. One thing that is perfect is how much she loves her son and it is unconditional. She heads off to work that day not realizing that her father is watching her. While she is at work we learn a couple things about Karen. No one will ever see her dancing on that stage. Second with her money situation she is willing to put in some extra hours so she can get her son the camping gear he wants for his birthday. She does this selflessly. Later that night we will meet the two most important people in her (and her son’s) life. One is her friend Susanna. She is a bit older than Karen, was always a...

Stress-Free Summer: 30+ FREE Online Tools for Kids

Stress-Free Summer: 30+ FREE Online Tools for Kids

Jun 16, 2014

  School is out! This is a transition time for anyone that has children. Children are less structured, at home longer, and staying up later!!  How can we make the summer enjoyable for everyone? Let the WLBPA lend a hand. We want to help you balance your time with family and your continuing responsibilities at home and work. Embrace the technology!! Whatever your thoughts might be on kids using technology, it is here to stay. Rather…it is here to continue growing…rapidly. A picture circulated on my Facebook feed showing a group of children at a restaurant, all quietly using an electronic tool with headphones, sitting and waiting for their food. I was a little shocked at the back-lash I saw in the comments section.  People were outraged that the family wasn’t enjoying the time “together” by interacting face-to-face. Honestly, I have no idea what this family looks like while out to dinner on a regular basis or how they interact with each other in life. What I can say is…WHATEVER WORKS! (If memory serves, there was a debate circulating not long ago about barring children from certain restaurants.) That said, we wanted to compile a list of the best FREE sites for kids. Whether you are at a restaurant, looking to boost learning over the summer, trying to teach your children to become comfortable with technology and proper internet use, or just need a moment of peace, you should find something here.  These sites are educational, safe, and FREEEEEE: Prongo (pre-K through middle school) Childtopia (pre-K to 6) FunSchool (pre-K through Grade 6) Karooba (Grades 3 and up) Funbrain (Grades K through 8) Discovery.com’s Games (Grades 3 and up) Sheppard Software (All Ages) National Geographic Channel’s Games Site (Grades 3 and up) PrimaryGames (Grades K through 6) Educational Games on NobelPrize.org (Grades 6 and up + Higher Ed) Power My Learning (Grades K-12 and based on common core) Learning Games For Kids (Grades 1-8) QuizHub (Grades K-12 and iPad compatible) Orsinal PBS Kids Go (PreK-6) Knowledge Adventure Games (Grades K-12) Room Recess (Grades K-5) Play Kids Games (Grades K-8) FitBrains (all ages) ABCya (Grades K-5) Starfall (Grades Pre-K-5) Sesame Street (Grades Pre-K-5) CSI Web Adventures (Middle and up) Arcademics (Grades 1-5) The Problems Site (Grades 5 and up) History.com...

The Greatest Generation: A Reflection For Father’s Day

The Greatest Generation: A Reflection For Father’s Day

Jun 12, 2014

By Mo Breden The older I get, the more I appreciate the man my father was. He perplexed me as a child, I could never quite figure him out, but with each passing year, who he was, as a person was gradually revealed to me. He was so tough as we were growing up. We were a wild bunch, the four of us, his children, and I see now that someone had to be feared, and he was that person. I had seen him happy and I’d seen him angry and all I knew was that I never wanted to be the focus of his anger, not just because of the consequences, but because I didn’t want to disappoint him. I carried those feelings into my adulthood. His military service aboard a United States Navy Destroyer in the Pacific during WWII was a source of great pride for him. His pride, he transferred to us by instilling love of country, respect for the flag and what it represents, and the sacrifices that are made every day, in every generation to maintain our freedom. He never considered himself special, or that what he did during WWII as being heroic, he would only say, “we just did what we had to do”, and they did. When I look at his picture from that time in history, I see a baby faced kid, but they all knew, in their hearts that the fate of the world was in their hands and you and I are the beneficiaries of his generation’s sacrifice. As my dad, he was stern, but I could always get a smile or a laugh out of him by doing something, usually sticking my tongue out at him and wiggling my fingers in my ears, for some reason this cracked him, up, even when he was annoyed with me. He made me feel that I was special, because I knew I was special to him. He gave me some advice that a daughter might not get from her father. When I was a teenager, being ravaged by acne, he advised me to keep my hands away from my face and to wash my hands and...

Know Your Value

Know Your Value

Jun 11, 2014

Simply take this second to focus on one of the many values you bring to the world. What is it? What skill or trait can you lock on to this second? Appreciate, nurture, and promote this trait. Let your understanding of your own value inform the decisions you make for the rest of the day. Maybe it will usher in the change you are looking for. If you have been feeling like your personal “well” has run dry, take this opportunity to appreciate your unique abilities. I ran across this quote in a charming book about simple pleasures in life–giving solid, actionable solutions to happy living. Immediately, I was reminded to fill my own “well” that has been running dry of late. Now that you’ve been thinking of your own value, take a second to refill someone else. Who can you email, call, or message (right now)? Remind someone of their value. Share this:RedditPinterestFacebookLinkedInTumblrTwitterGoogleEmailLike this:Like...

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