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Happy 2014!

Happy 2014!

Dec 31, 2013

Thank you!  Yes, you!   Our site continues to grow because of your continued support and readership.  All of the writers  at the Work Life Balance Protection Agency enjoy the opportunity to share their journey of authentic and purposeful living with you! Please, let us know what you would like to learn more about, which topics you’d like to see more of, and which articles were your favorites. Invite your friends to participate in this project too! Why not consider contributing to the site as well?  We love engaging with our readers, and learning about how you are taking active part in the design of your life.  Write up your story and send it to us here. If you have time, we’d love to get your feedback on how we can make the site even better for you in 2014: Create your free online surveys with SurveyMonkey , the world’s leading questionnaire tool. Above all, we wish you a very happy 2014! Share this:RedditPinterestFacebookLinkedInTumblrTwitterGoogleEmailLike this:Like...

What Can You Do Without to Make Room for What You Desire Most?

What Can You Do Without to Make Room for What You Desire Most?

Dec 30, 2013

What can you do without to make room for what you desire most?   Answer this question honestly.   Your answer to this question can set you on the path to living your most authentic and fulfilling life. Your answer to this question can, and probably will, change. Your answer to this question might surprise or even disappoint you. Exercise: Make a list of all the things in your life you can let go of: emotions, beliefs, possessions. Gone blank?  Try the other way first. List all of the things you desire most.  This list probably won’t be as long.  Choose your most authentic desire–the one that speaks to you most. Then ask yourself, “What am I willing to sacrifice for this to happen?” I have had clients make powerful shifts in thinking by answering this question.  People who have been stuck in unhappy patterns, for very long periods of time, can experience significant change by completing this exercise.  Sometimes, the revelations themselves are enough to get the ball rolling! It is a place to start. Now is the time to start living a life you have designed.  Start feeling like you are doing and not being-done-to by shedding that victim mentality.  Answer this question in complete and total truth. What can you do without to make room for what you desire most?  Do not consider people’s opinions or listen to any judgmental areas inside your own mind.   You might find you need to make some very difficult decisions: leave a job, leave a person, move away, sell your things.  You might not be willing to sacrifice the things that will get you to your heart’s desire.  At least you know.  You can begin to feel less victimized by owning your attachments.  You may also begin to see solutions open up that you had not considered. You may find that you are already doing what you need to be, that you are in the right place, but need a reminder.  Too often, we let our critical mind make us doubt our decisions to live authentically and with intent. When I chose to follow my desire to become the primary caretaker of my children, I didn’t...

Like, Stop Saying “Like”

Like, Stop Saying “Like”

Dec 27, 2013

The end of the year is a great time to reflect on your accomplishments.  It is also a great time to make plans for self-improvement. We wanted to revisit a post, from May, that can help you polish your professional image.  Make the decision to learn or refine a new skill in 2014.  See what doors it opens for you! Nothing makes a person sound more educated, in control, or classy than, you know, like saying “like” all the time. People do judge us by how we say what we say. Saying “like” a lot can obscure our authority on a subject matter (hurting our promotional chances).  I’m not about re-inventing the wheel, so here’s a great  article on the topic.   In the article, Emily Co suggests ways you can curb your use of the word if you find it has become habitual.  One of her suggestions, recording yourself while speaking, can be horrifying but invaluable.   Get a recorder (most phones have one built in) and let it record a conversation you have with a friend.  Also, record yourself during a presentation you give at work or while you speak in a meeting.  What do you notice?  Are there words you should eliminate? Can you use a different tone? Changing the way we speak, or tweaking it a little, can have a huge impact on our careers.  Every organization values communication skills in their employees.  Brushing up on yours might be the key to advancement or new opportunities. “If all my possessions were taken from me with one exception, I would choose to keep the power of communication, for by it I would soon regain all the rest.”–Daniel Webster Share this:RedditPinterestFacebookLinkedInTumblrTwitterGoogleEmailLike this:Like...

I’m Enough. (Do More. Be the Change. Just Do It.)

I’m Enough. (Do More. Be the Change. Just Do It.)

Dec 26, 2013

More, more, more! That seems to be all around us. Excess. Too much. After the craze of holiday gift-giving has passed, I thought we should revisit this post about lessening clutter. Access is still available to this FREE BOOK, Take Back Your Time: Fighting Overwork and Time Poverty in America, edited by John DeGraaf. It’s free, and it’s electronic, so it won’t take up any space! *** Why can’t I be satisfied (or at the very least, appreciate) all that I have already have and all that I have already accomplished? Can I not see the value in what I am already doing? Do I really need more patterned tights when I live in FL and rarely wear the ones I already have?! AAAHHHH!!! Cecile Andrews’ chapter in the aforementioned book called, “The Simple Solution,” helped give me a little perspective. So much so that I thought I needed to write about it. The message of MORE is all around us. It is the American, consumerist, whatever-you-want-to-call-it, way! She says, “It’s hard to switch to a more leisurely life with the constant pressure to hurry up. I went to a copy shop one day and there was a huge poster on the wall that said, “Do More!”…Then I realized that it’s the basic American creed—it’s the message we get all the time.” And, boy, isn’t that the truth? Just today, my Weight Watcher’s e-mail tip-o-the-day was MOVE MORE! Seriously. I can’t get away from it. Maybe now, though, that I am tuned into the messages (and advertising slogans) blaring in my ear, I can begin to separate them from my own value, my own interior monologue…. I am enough. I have enough. Breathe. There’s space for appreciation. Gratitude. Breathe. Her chapter goes on to talk about the “Simplicity Movement,” and its basic theory of live on less so you can WORK less. She says a simplistic life is an “examined life, a life in which we live deliberately.”  This concept, live on less to work less, has been a powerful and immediate solution to many people’s work-life balance issues.  What can you do without to make room for what you desire most?   Andrews also points out...

Grandma and the Best Gifts I Never Got

Grandma and the Best Gifts I Never Got

Dec 23, 2013

This column is written from my memories. All the stories here took place between my birth in 1967 and my sophomore year of high school in 1983. At the time they were disappointments.  I didn’t realize that by not getting the gifts I requested an even bigger gift was being given to me each time. I had a conversation with my Grandmother who is the gift giver in this article. During our conversation we talked about these let-downs with humor. Then she stunned me with her logic behind her decisions. Now I look back with a smile at the gifts that somehow missed the mark and with eyes that have been opened to see what I was really given, and  what I was given, money cannot buy.   Like all kids every year, the thought of Christmas gifts was so exciting! I would have my list made up weeks in advance with visions of what a magical Christmas it was going to be.  Most of the time it really was, then at other times I was left scratching my head in confusion at the item I had just torn the colorful wrapping paper off of. This column is bittersweet in that as a child my heart sometimes fell, yet after talking to Grandma before I wrote this column, I can really smile at the memories and sometimes even laugh out loud. They were indeed very special gifts that I was not aware of at that time, and until now did not even know about. Let’s take a walk down memory lane as I recall some of the most disappointing gifts I ever received and the incredible gifts I was really given. Keep in mind as you read this that although my Grandmother never went to school beyond 8th grade. She is a highly intelligent woman who gathered her knowledge from reading and life as she lived it. One of the things I wanted as a child was a Barbie. She had beautiful clothes and neat accessories (in fashion colors mind you) I wanted to dress her and have fantasies using her to play it out. She could roller skate, drive, ski, I think she...

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