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A Case of the Shakes: How-to Exposé on Handshake Etiquette

A Case of the Shakes: How-to Exposé  on Handshake Etiquette

May 23, 2013

The Upper Hand  A Case of the Shakes: How-to Exposé  on Handshake Etiquette Possibly more than other people (not sure why) I have had awkward greeting moments: handshake mishaps, cheek-kissing gone awry, hug or not to hug moments.  My all-time worst handshake moment was when I initiated a handshake with my right hand with a person who had a disabled (almost none) right hand.  Until that moment, I never noticed that this woman didn’t have a hand and I had initiated the handshake introduction with the rest of the people in the group setting.  Result: This woman stuck out her arm with gusto and accepted my shake.   I am still not sure if I handled everything correctly in this situation, but she was cool as a cucumber.  It was definitely my awkwardness and not hers.  I learned several things about myself in this moment, and thought I should share some handshake etiquette with you all. Who should initiate the handshake? Should one be initiated at all? I tend to be an outgoing person and the breaker of tension in group settings.  When people seem to be hesitant or shy in introductions, I’m often the person who starts some kind of handshake scenario.  This is NOT always a good thing.  Instinctively, I stick out my hand when I meet a new person and that is not always the right thing to do.  Ooops!  Lahle Wolfe writes an article where she lists when to NOT shake hands, and raises some good points.  For example, she says not to handshake just to break an awkward moment of silence.  The awkward moment will continue after the handshake and…well…now you’ve touched too…so…  The handshake, Wolfe explains, is“an invitation for conversation or desire for social interaction.” Think before you offer your hand.  Do you genuinely want to speak to this person or engage them?  My thought is, “How do you know you don’t want to interact with a person until you’ve tried?”  Regardless, her main point is to think before you shake—at least PAUSE.  Does the other person have their hands full? No hand at all?  Maybe another approach would work better. Also, she warns against being the first to shake in a power setting...

Trash Talkin’ Tuesday

Trash Talkin’ Tuesday

May 21, 2013

Most people already know work can be hazardous to your mental health and stress levels. But did you know it’s also a veritable disease factory!? Your work place is filled with 25,127 germs per square inch (at least your phone is)? An article from the American Cleaning Institute (see the word “institute” makes it official) totally gave me the heebe-geebees by including facts like the aforementioned phone germs.  Read it and be warned!  They also give you several tips, some via links at the bottom of the article, on how to clean it up, unclutter your desk, and tips on cleaning your computer (which apparently needs cleaning).  They don’t call this the Protection Agency for nothin’ (also, “agency” makes us seem more official). Did you know that having a messy home can also be hazardous?   Not just for obvious reasons, like stepping on a Lego and almost killing yourself  (Those are torturous, and I’m fairly certain are the preferred pavement in HELL), cleaning your house is linked with your mental well-being and clutter can actually keep you in a cycle of poverty! Get rid of the clutter.  Having stuff everywhere makes you feel down, out of control, you waste time having to look through everything before you find what you are looking for, it’s unattractive.  Also, you have probably wasted a bunch of money on that collection of ____.  Ask yourself:  How many of these  __dried out pens___ do I really need? What is my real attachment to these? Kathryn Weber, a feng shui wealth expert, gives helpful tips in her article, Clutter’s Effects on Your Life — How clutter affects you and what to do about it. Clearing clutter also helps relieve dust (and consequently allergy symptoms) issues, feelings of being overwhelmed, and literally gives you room to breathe and focus. Using feng shui to clean and organize with purpose is something I will try and report back to y’all later. Right away, you can clean your desk!  Now!  Don’t wait.  I just did it (mostly) and I feel accomplished—ish.     Share this:RedditPinterestFacebookLinkedInTumblrTwitterGoogleEmailLike this:Like...

Ask Madeleine Mondays

Ask Madeleine Mondays

May 20, 2013

It’s ASK MADELEINE MONDAY! Ask your real life questions and get them answered by a 4-year-old (her birthday is Wednesday, so she’s almost 4). You know you want to! She gives great advice.  Questions are collected through our FB page. Q: Madeleine, I have a lot of reading to do for school but can’t seem to get started. How can I motivate myself to read books that are boring? A: If it is boring, like cleaning up toys, I just do it. Q: How do you find the energy to work out after working all day? A: Try jumping jacks or playing outside. Q: Why is Monday always the hardest day? A: I don’t think it is. Just don’t think it. Then she showed me how she could pick up things with her toes… So, to summarize…. Just jump into difficult tasks without thinking about them. Boring books, exercise, dragging yourself out of bed on Mondays, jump in with both feet. The more we think about how challenging the task is, or how much we don’t enjoy it, the harder it becomes. Good advice!!! I’m going to do a few jumping jacks and see what happens. P.S. Since it’s always better to see who your getting advice from, I thought I’d include her photo.  A Clair Huxtable in the making—no nonsense!   Share this:RedditPinterestFacebookLinkedInTumblrTwitterGoogleEmailLike this:Like...

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